To all the nice people out there (especially the guys)

I have been wondering for quite a time now. My incapability to having any kind of a relationship is one thing, my being very picky is yet another but I was wondering why could that be. And then I realized something else besides some other things that I already knew: which, namely is, that I am very dominant and I don't compromise well so I am incompatible with most of mankind. Which is fine I guess, I would have no time for anyone in my life besides me anyway, because of the university and also... stuff. Before even thinking about having someone, I would like to sort out my own life, thank you very much.

These facts tossed aside, however, I have also realized something else: I am heterosexual but most of the time for some time now I have been avoiding guys. Not like I would have anything to do with girls (which would be fine, by the way, to all of you homophobics out there) but for some reason I just usually don't think about guys as... well, men anymore. Why is that? Maybe it's just me getting way too much attention "goodness" but fact is: when a guy doesn't get a girl he just stops being interested in her in every way, even if they were friends before (mostly, though not always, this is the case).

I can understand guys' need to jump on every living being and also the fact that they think they are irresistible and that we, girls, should just give them a chance to prove themselves, but here's a fun fact: we are absolutely capable of choosing for ourselves. Sometimes this decision might not be the good one, but it is still our decision.

I am also aware of this world being different than long ago but I am seriously getting annoyed by the "friendzone" excuse and all the whining that surrounds it. News flash: I have also been "friendzoned" and it sucked. But I also had the courage to go to the guy I liked and tell him: oh hey, I like you, what if we...? And then, rejection came. And guess what: I SURVIVED! And did not complain about friendzone or anything else of the sort.

Friendzone is a nice way of solving a guy's problem, which is namely the rejection from a girl. Instead of moving on (yes, I know that after the hundredth time it is quite annoying), a guy would keep on complaining about "being in the friendzone" instead of actually maybe DOING something about it.

And here I get to the other thing I wanted to say.

Guys... looking at us with puppy dog eyes, making our every whim come true is seriously awesome and nice. But to expect us to fall in love with you because of this is not cool. Just not cool. Let me tell you why: because we don't work like that and also, I, for one, have a very-very high tolerance for people being nice to me. Because I like to help people out as well and it is only natural to me that I have some other nice people in my life who do the same for me. That, in itself, doesn't mean a damn thing for me.

IF you want something for a girl, instead of not saying anything and then being frustrated by her flirting with someone else and whining about stuff in your room or to your friends, you could just go over to her and ask her out, tell her how you feel. The worst thing that can happen is that she rejects you. At least it probably will not destroy some kind of a friendship that you already might have.

Oh, yes, and it will also make you look... well not like a little baby to her but something that has been mostly forgotten (at least by me, cause I get the "I will not tell her about how I feel" types all the time: how men used to ask out women back in the days. You want to be taken seriously? Act like a man.

I think this is where I wanted to go with my little writing because I get the question all the time: do you have a boyfriend? And I keep laughing and just saying no. And then I started wondering why it could be and realized that there are very few people I would actually even consider being worthy to my attention. It sounds egotistic, and maybe it is, but I sure am not looking for a child that I can take care of. If I wanted one I am sure I would manage getting it.

So, guys, I know it is hard since all the girl power going on out there but please... PLEASE. Either act like a MAN (or at least a MALE type being), or don't whine about friendzone, because it is really getting old.

Thank you.